Are you prepared?

For those of my friends who are getting married anytime soon.. pls do read this article. It's a good one!

Simple steps to a blissful married life

Newly-wed couples are actually entering a new phase of their lives. Romance and communication are still an important part to keep the love flame alight for a lifetime.

However, communication must come with understanding and acceptance; the important foundation to a blissful married life.

Here are 4 simple steps for a blissful marriage:

• Be Realistic

Maybe it is that romantic Korean drama, or that Jane Austen novel with the sweet happy ending. Whatever reason it is, some people tend to think of marriage as a bed of roses, and expected the ideal perfection from their other half.

But, as quoted, in the harsh reality, marriage is far from being a paradise. Marriage means preparing to form a new family, and taking up the responsibilities as well. Food, laundry, house chores, household expenses, childcare, and children’s education eventually; these are the things that every married couple will eventually need to face, and it is not easy.

Also, people are not perfect, including your other half, which is why some couple never got married long. They expected the impossible ideal, and refused to accept their spouses’ imperfection.

• Be Mentally prepared

As we mentioned earlier, marriage is a new phase in life; which means sharing your life with another person for as long as you live. And it definitely is different from the life of a single person, which is why couples need to be mentally prepared. Sometimes, newly-weds may need the time to get use to their new life, especially the ladies, who will have to learn to live with her husband’s family, if they are living together in the ancestral home.

Starting a new family, and living with previously complete strangers are new challenges, and the right state of mentality brings out the best results.

• Be Intimate

One of the most important aspects in marriage, sexual fulfillment can affect the quality of a couple’s married life. Thus, no harm in exploring and knowing more about the intimate side of marriage!

A marriage lacking sexual satisfaction is heading towards an end. So, share your fantasies with your spouse, explore together and don’t be shy! This is a little step in achieving the perfect marriage.

• Be Patient

When a marriage is rushed, it wouldn’t be the best. As quoted, marriage is the harvest, from the seeds of love. It must be harvested only when it the time is right for the best results. A marriage rushed is like a harvest done before the fruit ripens. How could 2 strangers share their lives forever when they aren’t even sure if he or she is their Mr. Right or Mrs. Right?

In fact, statistics have shown that hastily tying the knot is one of the reasons for divorce. Therefore, give more time for each other to contemplate, understand before deciding to tie the knot. Only when love matures, will the marriage be perfect.

Referred and translated from wedding.com.my.

2 weeks more to go..

I can't believe I'm going to finish my bachelorette period in 2 weeks time..gosh, what am I thinking! haha. The days of having my me-time will be gone! I, in fact have analysed this issue thoroughly for the past one week before going to ZzzZzz.. and realized that by me getting married will not change my life 360 degrees. This is simply because I have spent like 80% of my outing time with my fiance&friends so there will not be this crap like since I'm a wife, I can't go out & things like that. The advantages of knowing each other for quite some time makes us understand each other better & thus he understands that I love going out for movies&good food where as for him, chilling with friends till late at night is a must. I have decided and told him recently, just because he is a husband, I will not constraint his social activities. With NO terms&conditions. good eh! I read in an article, it says..Compromise is the key to happiness!

p/s: Friends, I know you all have been asking me to post my wish list ..Sorry, been busy. I will do it soon. Please wait ya!

Let's start the countdown peeps!

Yes, it's 28 more days to go.. While I juggling with heavy work load, I still have to keep myself updated with the wedding preparation that is mostly done by my mom now. On my part, I THINK I have done everything. Maybe there's a lil bit more to do but I'm relieve I've done the big bulk of the wedding preparation. Last Sunday, I went to Amcorp Mall to do the bridal henna. I was very excited as it was my first time doing it on my hand. I have always liked henna and thinks that it is something special that should be put on the wedding day. I thought I wanted the girl to just do it on the wedding day but she insisted that I should try it on first just in case I don't like the work or the color of the henna on my skin. It took her 1 hour to draw just a simple drawing on my right hand. Since I was so excited I didn't even keep track of the time but I knew it was long because I could see Helms sleeping beside me! Wanna see my henna..

Note: This is just a test on my hand. Drawing may differ on the actual day. Drawing will definitely be on all the fingers except on the wedding ring finger.

Color.

As I was browsing the internet for wedding purposes, I came across this interesting article about color. It says that our personalities can be reflected in our color choices. Take a look at some of the color samples & find out what it says about you!

Pink:
Pink, emotional in character, connotes a sensitive heart. Universally representing caring and sharing, pink indicates a strong personality. The affectionate and concerned individual prefers pink. Gently, you offer love, attention and nurturing to those in distress.



Red:
Red, the single most dynamic and passionate color, symbolizes love, rage and courage. Demanding attention, red has great emotional impact. Those who select red are aggressive, impulsive and strive for success. The desire to experience the fullness of living leads to constant activity.



Violet:
Violet, the color of luxury, indicates sensuality, passion and depth of feeling. This lavish color creates an unusual atmosphere and provides an unexpected essence. If you like violet, you tend to be unique, highly sensitive and observant. Creative and artistically talented, you tend to have a complex personality.



Brown:
Brown, sensuous in nature, represents an importance of hearth and home. It symbolizes physical comfort, ease and contentment. Should you seek brown, you are conscientious, steady and dependable. Your inner security, honesty and high virtue show that you take life seriously.

White: White suggests goodness, purity and innocence. Its elusive nature provides serenity and the essence of perfection. The individual who chooses white as a favorite color seeks excellence and enlightenment in all philosophies. Simplicity, purity and recognition are a constant endeavor.

Green:
Green is the color of life, and represents freshness, security and tranquility. Green creates an atmosphere that is calm and restful, and characterizes the intense power of nature. If you selected green, you seek stability, balance and persistence. You are a moral and affectionate individual.

Just another day @ work

Just a second ago I was looking at this screen thinking what to write in my blog today. Without realizing it, it is already almost the end of the day for today. Look at how time flies..so fast!I've just had 2 meetings today and I feel like my brain is all washed up by it. Meetings after meetings after meetings. There's so many things to do but yet it is easier said than done. Ramadan is coming, after that comes Raya then comes the Big Day. Oh gosh, not long before I become someone else's property. Being a girl, lady and a woman..we will always be under someone's custody. After being under Mohd Azahar&Roslina's custody for 25 years, nurtured&tortured with love, the time has come for them to transfer the custody to my soon-to-be hubby. Sounds like a burden huh! I remember my dad told me once, "Taking care of my one and only daughter is worse than having to take care of 10 cows!". Well, I have to agree with him. It was one hell of a time for him to raise me, to make me become to who I am today. Despite of enjoying having power as a husband, you now not only have to take care of yourself but also another person i.e your wifey. Like what Spiderman said, WITH GREAT POWER COMES GREAT RESPONSIBILITY!

Workin' Woman I Am

Hola peeps! So many things happened in this few months back that I just don't have the time to update my blog. Only after Faha kept on pestering me I decided to give myself 10mins off to write something in my blog. There's so many things to tell at a time but yet lil time that I have to spend on my blog. FYI, I'm currently working at the Insolvency Department as Assistant of Director of Insolvency. So I'm officially a career woman. Yikes! That sounds stressful. Honestly I kinda miss my student life. I miss meeting frens especially during honours prog. We will be having all sorts of fun, tears, laughter in a day. Well life has to go on and here we are going on our separate ways. Most of us are in the AG'S Chambers being Puans & Tuans, while the rest of us are doing chambering in legal firms all around Malaysia. I hope for the best for all of us.

Since my wedding is coming up very very soon (at least that's what I think), so many people come up to me and ask the FAQ: How's your wedding prep?

The answer would be I'm still struggling to finalise every little details. So far it's going as planned. Alhamdullillah I have a lot of helpful people around me to help me organize my Big Day. I'm excited, nervous, sometimes I even break into tears hoping, praying that everything will go smooth sailing on the day. Until next time..

Is he THE ONE?

How do you know that he's the one?

When you still feel 'butterfly-in-your-stomach' before seeing him
When you still wanna look pretty in front of him even after 7 years together
When you still spare some time for him even for 5mins no matter how busy you are
When there is still stories to tell everytime you meet and if he doesn't have one, he will have to create one or it might just lead to a small fight..
When you still feel that he's hot in every way..well, even hotter than Brad Pitt!
When he's the last person on your mind before you close your eyes
When he's the first person you wanna talk to when your tear drops
When he still ask you out on a date even for a dinner at mamak
When you know he hates horror movie but still follows you since it's your fav kinda movie
When there is always a soft spot for him in your heart even if he misbehave,
When you tell yourself that you're willing to go through all the obstacles with him, no matter what happens.

When he knows your dos and don'ts
When he knows how to use the right kinda tone plus touch to smoothen you when you're stiff
When he knows what you're thinking by only looking at your face
When he tries to avoid an argument when you're about to start one
When he accepts all the blame in a fight during your menstruation period
When he knows where to sit; beside or next to you without you telling him
When he makes you feel good when you're down even if it has to result to white lies
When he accepts the good side of yours and amend the bad side
When he looks at all other chix but at the end of the day will tell you that you're still the PrEttiEst of all!

It takes two to tango!